We all want a better life right?
I have come to the realization that you don’t have to get a ton of stuff done every day! Woh!
I know just take a moment. Let it simmer.
I have been the type of person that feels like if I don’t knock off everything on my list then it wasn’t a productive day. Of course the list always grew every day. I got so exhausted trying to keep up with it. The other day I thought, ‘I needed a chill pill.’ I realized that sometimes it is ok to get just 1-3 things done. Some days it is even a good idea to do nothing and take a break. We live in a world where things are constantly moving. Technology is advancing so rapidly that we panic if we set the computer or phone down we might miss out on something. We won’t. It will all be there tomorrow. Living in the mindset that you have to go go go go just leads you to the inevitable crash. My dad taught an awesome series on “Pondering the Path of your Feet”. He talked about how we actually have a “circle path”. These are our habits, the things we do every day. These things that we do every day are actually the things that will either propel us forward or backwards.
I have been pondering, ‘What are my circle paths?’ (the things I do daily, weekly, monthly, yearly) I decided the best way to get my circle path to the place where I’m living the life I want is to adjust one thing at a time. I imagined what my day would look like if I was living the life I want, then what are the “habits” in that day or life?
Imagine your PERFECT day and what it looks like.
What are you doing? How does it feel?
We should start by visualizing what we want and where we want to go. If we walk through life not knowing where we are going we might wake up one day so far from where we are supposed to be. We must visualize where we are going. Imagine what you want and what it feels like. Bring your future to your present. (that is just like using your faith) Connect to what it is you want and you will see more clearly the path to get there.
Taking it one step at a time will get you to the a better life with better habits. We all want that end result and that “perfect” day now. But, if we attempt to bite off the whole thing right away we will just create a habit of false starts. This is not a concept that is new. It isn’t something that we haven’t heard before or read before.
If you are like me you have read blogs like this countless times and said, “Yeah, I’m going to do this! It will be great ‘New year. New me.'” Then come 3rd week of January you’re beating yourself up again because you can’t seem to keep up.
Rule of Thirds
Another tip for creating a better life with better habits is the “Rule of Thirds”. Make a list of your top 3 goals. Then write down 3 reasonable things that you think you can accomplish and commit to just that for 1 month. Often times what keeps us from stopping and completing our goals is that we create “dream goals” that we know we can’t really accomplish so in our mind we don’t believe we will accomplish it. Well that little quiet thought in the “back of our minds” is the little culprit killing it before we even start. So think through your goals and start with the one that you KNOW you can accomplish. You have to believe in yourself. When we can accomplish the first thing we set our mind to then that will encourage you to continue with your goals and really reach that better life with better habits!
Some of the habits I am going to start with are:
- – making my bed every morning
- – plan the next day the night before
- – hanging my clothes up!
- – drink more water
I put together a list of tools to get you started! Habit Planning Tools…..who doesn’t get inspired by an awesome planner and some fun pens!
Last but not least…..Embrace Failure!
STOP beating yourself up when you don’t stick to your plan. Life should never be forced to be “perfect”. We can’t expect perfection and think we will achieve our goals and create healthy habits. When you think of your goals/habits as a “lifestyle” you can embrace failure and let life happen. Just get back on the horse. Stick to your plan and if “life” happens then live that life and start fresh the next day. Don’t get upset that “life” happens. This is your life and the way you look at each situation is up to you. If you put so much pressure on being perfect and working out EVERY day….one day you aren’t able to do that you will create a defeated feeling.
Take a deep breath.
This is your life! Live it and embrace it!
Don’t villanize “life”. Let things happen. If appointments, family, or weather gets in the way of your “plans”. Enjoy those moments and don’t villanize them. You want to create an excitement around your plans and goals that makes it a joy and a treat to do them. Shift your mind to embrace your life and know that creating a habit is not about a perfect schedule it is about not stopping. When “life” happens you don’t stop that habit because habits are now apart of that “life”. So embrace life and embrace those things that get in your way and just use your problem solving skills to think of how you can work your habits around “life”.
Create a positive emotions toward your goals.
I know you can do it! We will encourage each other on this endeavor of “Circle Paths” and “The Rule of Thirds”.
The Reading Corner:
Here are some books from some that say it better than me. From New York Times Best Sellers. Check out the links below to continue your journey to better habits and a better life!
What are your “Circle paths”? What are your top three?
What habits do you have that you think are helping your life move in the right direction? What habits do you think you need to change?
Comment Below and let me know what your goals are for this year?
What are some circle paths that you want to change and what are some circle paths you would like to make this year?