Everyone thinks to themselves, “oh I should’ve done…” right. Come on you know your thinking it all the time. And we kick ourselves over some things we “shoulda/woulda/coulda” done for years. We look back and regret things that we know now that we didn’t know then.
Shoulda, Woulda, Coulda
I do this so often and I have come to the realization. That we can’t hold on to the thoughts of the shoulda/woulda/couldas. They harbor negative feelings about ourselves. The overall feeling behind a thought beginning with one of those words is a negative feeling directed inward. Instead of letting it effect or define us let’s learn from it. Take those thoughts of “shoulda/woulda/coulda” and say ok then next time I will. We can’t be afraid to try things and fail. Or keep our focus on what could have been or what we didn’t do in the past we have to keep moving forward and looking to the future with hope and excitement of what should happen could happen and what will happen.
It sounds (in my head) like I’m giving a motivational speech. I guess in a way I am kind of giving a speech to myself Everytime I start to say coulda/woulda/shoulda. Instead when times and thoughts like that come I will face it with “I can / I will / and I shall”
When looking back at situations with regret or wondering if you made the right decision if you “could have done” this or that, we are always looking back with more knowledge and a different mindset then we did in that moment. It is useless to dwell on the past wishing it were different. Or wondering if you made a different choice if life would be better. God has a specific plan for our lives. All we have to do is stay in faith which is the substance of our Hope of things not seen.
Let’s look at the future with hope and look on our “not so great” moments as times that we grow and learn from to help us succeed the next time. When we could have, the next time we can. When we should have, the next time we shall and when we would have, the next time we will.